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Three is too many, I am broken


After watching my elderly father decline and finally pass away in February I was comforted by my pets. Then 3 weeks ago our beloved family pet Spot was diagnosed with cancer. This took her in 2 weeks after 14 years of love. But yesterday our baby 7 month old Kipper cat was taken and killed by a vicious dog I have nothing left in me. The pain is horrendous. 


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    Author LeanneG Member since May 17, 2011

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    • Silvia
      Silvia     Posted on Jun 29, 2011

      Leanne, I am very sorry for what happened to you. I have lost my kitty matilda only 2 days ago and the pain is so horrible I feel like I can't breathe sometimes, I can't imagine what you must be going through. Please look after yourself. My thoughts are with you.

    • LeanneG
      LeanneG     Posted on May 18, 2011

      Thank you all for your kind words of encouragement and support. It really means alot. One foot in front of the other.

    • GlendaD
      GlendaD     Posted on May 17, 2011

      Leanne, that is just awful.  I don't know you, but wish I could just give you a big hug.  Life will get better, it will take time, but the pain will ease.  My thoughts are with you.


    • shiba13
      shiba13     Posted on May 17, 2011

      Oh Leanne, how devastating, I cannot comprehend how cruel life can be at times - please take care of yourself, the grief would be overwhelming but you need to get through to be strong for your family.

      My thoughts are with you too.   CB

    • Szee989
      Szee989     Posted on May 17, 2011

      How strong must one be to walk themselves through so many layers of loss and grief.  It hurts to hear what your recent experience has been.  'It is a fearful thing to love what death can touch.'  ...and still, we reach out to touch. 

      I am so sorry.  I mean that sincerely.  I wish I could help you carry this burden...until you are strong enough to carry it yourself.  That's what we do, you know.  Grief is merely our manifestation of the death, the loss.  The grief doesn't go away any more than the death does.  We simply pick it up...and begin to move in whatever direction we are going with the added weight of this grief.  It doesn't get lighter, we get stronger.  Each path is unique, each timetable is individual.  Be kind to yourself.  Feel what you feel.  It's important.  

      When your loss is accompanied with a violence such as with Kipper...and so too, with my Gibson...that adds a whole other dimension.  I have tried to fix it...change it...rearrange it...deny it....scream at it...pray it gone....but the ugly is still there.  It is hard, we loved them can it be how it ended?  I don't know.  I do know our work is cut out for us...and it helps me to know others feel similar things, have compassion and care deeply.  I hope you consider a counselor.  It makes so much sense to me.  I wish for you...peace.

    • katrina
      katrina     Posted on May 17, 2011

      I am so sorry to hear this heartbreaking news. Life just isn't fair sometimes and what you experienced with  Kipper is horrific.

      I am sure the pain is overwhelming and if you feel that noone understands, please remember we have some excellent counsellors listed on this site . A professional counsellor  may be able to help you get through this horrible period and validate all that you are feeling.

      My tHoughts are with you x

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